“Light at the end of the tunnel”

Squinting, searching, seeking for one ray of light, one faint sight of colour to validate my direct decision making.

I squint some more, took off my glasses out of its case and clean it down, hoping that when I wear it, my eyes will confirm that my life is moving forward, but nothing is certain. This minute l’m celebrating a major win while the next, I’m beating myself up for all the things i could have accomplished at my age. Oh well, that’s life I guess. It’s not an easy task staying focused, at least not when the noise of other people’s wins is glaring, making me feel like I am not doing enough.

Most people have a habit of showing the glamorous part of their lives, but no one really knows when they are crying in their closest or discussing their deepest pain and hurt with God.

I’m guilty of this too, I mean we live in a world where no one is concerned about your struggle, infact they discourage you when you are at your lowest but once you hit your breakthrough, they’ll swear on how they know you and supported you all along. Eish….

Anyway that’s not the gist today!

My name is Rita but my friends call me “RiRi”. I’m from Delta state, Nigeria and I’m 24 years old. Growing up, I had my life planned out in my head & it goes thus..

Finish secondary school when I’m 15/16

Get admission into a prestigious university immediately

Complete university and finish with a first class..

Get a job that’ll pay like 1 million per month, I mean Forbes list get ready for this mogul.. lol

Get married when I’m 23/24 and just live a fairytale life..

Here I am now, can we all laugh together? Lol

I’m sure life was looking at me funny like sis, pipe down, that’s not how your journey is written. But what do I know?

It’s quite frustrating being broke, I mean it’s not like you don’t have money, but it just never stays or let me say I don’t have it in abundance as l’ll love to. I mean, I can’t buy the Ikoyi mansion I so desire, or that fast car I know everything about & can easily talk about in my sleep without peeping.

One thing I know for sure is being broke can be super humbling & the experience has given me that profound feeling of sense, budgeting, importance of investing & gratitude for the time I had money in abundance.

From my experience, I tend to lose all my senses once I have money. I literally discard every humbling feeling & blow my money fast! Huh (in Rick Ross voice… did you get my lame joke lol).

Anyway, I’ve learnt a lot from being broke. Even though I’m still broke, I don’t mind sharing; you’re welcome

1. When you’re broke, it takes true & real friends to stick around: everyone is trying to make ends meet & while we’re all clamouring for a better life, we tend to forget about everything else & just focus on ourselves, and that’s fine if you ask me. However, I’ve noticed that a lot of people only reach out to you when it’s beneficial to them. But you see those friends that still push to reach out in this chaotic world, those friends you can always call on regardless of the situation & you know they’ll answer, those are the friends you should keep around in life.

2. Gratitude: I must admit, I used to have a very irritating habit when it comes to spending money. I mean, you don’t really appreciate what you have until you lose it & it applies to money too. Being broke has a way of teaching you gratitude.

3. Life isn’t fair: life doesn’t give a shit about you. While some people are born into wealth, some are not. The fingers are not equal same way our lives are not the same & it’s okay. Some people have it easy while other don’t, but it’s just life. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work hard because in life, you snooze, you lose.

4. You can lose yourself to money: They say money answereth all things yet is the roof of all evil. I’ve heard a lot of rich people say money is not everything & I often wonder why. Even though I’ve not experienced that level of wealth, I think I understand or let me say I’m trying to understand. An older friend once told me that everything we do in life revolves around making money in order to live a better life. He said, while the rich man working to add to their wealth, the poor man is also working to attain the status of the rich.

He explained it as an unending cycle until death. He further explained that people forget to live in the bid to try to make money & by the time they decide to breathe, it’s almost too late.

5. Money doesn’t guarantee happiness: You can have all the money in the world & still not find genuine happiness. There’s so many riches in little things in life that don’t involve money. Things like spending time with your family, being in a good mental space, doing things you’re passionate of & the list is endless.

With all these being said; do I want to make money? YES!

Do I want to be a billionaire? OH YES!!!

Do I want financial freedom? YES!!!

Am I ready to make money? YES!!!

However, as much as I want & need to make money, I also want to be able to consciously stay motivated & humble while enjoying the good things of life.

I want to live a life of purpose.

With that being said, I must admit that even though I’m young, one thing that is certain & I want you all to know is that “IN THIS LIFE, MAKE MONEY BECAUSE MONEY STOPS NONSENSE!!”

Till next time my people.

RiRi Out❤️

Hey there,

Yes you… it’s been a while, I know what you’re thinking. Yes, I have been MIA, and it’s been three months since my last post but here I am now; I missed you too. Can we move on now?

So I’ll go again,

Hey there, oh yes… Happy new year. It’s the start of a new decade, and I’m super excited for what’s to come. It’s not like I have anything spectacular planned, but I’m convinced it will be a great year/decade. I mean if nothing, my best girls will be getting married this decade ( most of those crazy girls are single to stupor, but we need to speak things into existence right?)

Oh I know what you’re thinking again, what about me right? Ha ha.. oh well, as the angel in the squad, it’s going to happen when it happens, I guess. Please don’t stress me!

2019 was one hell of a year for me. I mean I came face to face with death in September but guess who’s here now? I !

Moreover, I had a tremendous emotional growth. I never knew I could handle situations the way I did last year, but I navigated the worst situations with such grace that I still marvel at how good I took them.

I started my fashion line last year & even went for a fashion competition, I was live on TV pitching for my business to survive, eventhough I only made top 20, i learnt so much and I’m so proud of myself.

Wow Eby, who are you? Yes again, this is me giving myself a pat on the shoulder. I did well, and every good deed deserves a reward no matter how tiny.

I’m not afraid to admit that I failed at some things last year.

I realised that things end. You don’t always have the answers, but they just do & you have to make your peace with it.

What’s amazing about the future is that no one has a hold on it. We step into it in equal beat with everyone else. That means no one can tell you for certain what your life will look like, if you decide to turn the page and pursue something unexpected, surprising, or fill-in-the-blank. Maybe you’ll fail at it –, but we’ve already reviewed how that can work to your favor. Maybe it won’t last very long – yet again; things end sometimes, it’s natural and okay.

So when life takes a turn, remember that you alone have the power to say, “This can make me better, not bitter.”

You may shy away from failure, but you also crave victorious stories. It’s almost impossible to have one without the other ; all it takes is the courage to try. And never give up.

Also, I’m proud to say I found myself somehow; No actually, I’ll rephrase that, I’m learning to find myself … I’m beginning to understand the kind of woman I am, the woman I want to be, and I’m gradually finding a balance somewhere in between; it’s still a process, but I’m pushing. It’s never easy, but it doesn’t give you an excuse to give up because hey; you’re a warrior remember?! So let’s keep the energy.

Oh no! I’m beginning to sound like the inspire to aspire guys right? I apologise. It was never my intention. Trust me, I’m not a fan, either so we are good.

However, I’ll like to know your new year resolutions, (if you have any at all) & your plans for 2020. Kindly share with me, let’s help keep tabs on one another while growing & smashing our dreams; Shall we?

Anyway back to reality, I’m happy to be back. I look forward to writing & creating more content this year.

Happy New Year!!!

XoXo❤️